http://edynathan.com/psychology Intuitive Psychotherapy and the Evolution of You Fri, 04 May 2012 22:21:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://edynathan.com/psychology/the-psychology-of-addiction-in-the-celebrity-world/comment-page-1#comment-758 24 Hour Email Counselling Service Fri, 04 May 2012 22:21:26 +0000 http://edynathan.com/psychology/?p=588#comment-758 Great article, thank you for sharing it with us. Great article, thank you for sharing it with us.

]]> http://edynathan.com/psychology/the-wizard-of-oz-series-part-3/comment-page-1#comment-698 Louise Sun, 15 Apr 2012 11:01:24 +0000 http://edynathan.com/psychology/?p=385#comment-698 Thank you for this lovely post. I had a bad day today and what you said really is similar to what is going on in my life at the moment. I have absolutely no idea how to 'fix' any of it. It really cheered me up reading this and I hope it will work for me. Thank you for this lovely post. I had a bad day today and what you said really is similar to what is going on in my life at the moment. I have absolutely no idea how to ‘fix’ any of it. It really cheered me up reading this and I hope it will work for me.

]]> http://edynathan.com/psychology/the-psychology-of-addiction-in-the-celebrity-world/comment-page-1#comment-638 Jody Sun, 11 Mar 2012 19:22:49 +0000 http://edynathan.com/psychology/?p=588#comment-638 In my family, domestic violence and substance abuse is woven into the fabric of our lives from generation to generation. Grief is at the root of it and is the constant. Abusers continue to be enabled because living in darkness and not taking responsibility is what's easy and comfortable. We don't talk. We self sacrifice. That's our culture. So, we stay stuck in a cycle of abuse, negative behavioral patterns, and physical and mental health issues because those thoughts and emotions eventually do surface. Usually, the kids live as prisoners ruled by fear, unpredictability, and hopelessness. Of childhood, my cousins and I recall anger, debilitating fear, and indescribable loneliness. We grew to be awkward and complicated. As a young adult, I made a conscious effort to break free of that culture and survive without the safety net of family support. After 20 years, I hit a wall with my own personal growth. I had regret for times I had been unaccountable to family, and wondered if things could be different without an all or nothing mentality. Since then, I've taken the initiative to reconnect with everyone, and although we've reconciled, our family is still broken because that vicious cycle persists in much of the younger generation. I wonder what my role is in all this, and I think it's a few things. Some of us are working to change the culture to one in which we can talk openly and honestly. We are transparent which invites others to do the same. This has been most therapeutic. I also try to approach matters from a place of understanding and take actions that I hope will influence positive outcomes. I've let go of my judgements, ideas of what could have been, and have reconciled so that we can live and die more peacefully. This journey has been a crazy ride and a lot to process. I sometimes wonder if the hassles are worth it. Love is like that, I guess. We are bonding, but disappointments happen often, and it's hard not to be attached to outcomes. I remind myself that I only have control over my perception and response. I've replaced walls with boundaries. I also acknowledge my emotions and de-stress through journaling, music, and various meditative forms. I'm taking time for me and to do whatever I want without feeling guilty no matter how hard others try to make me feel so. These things help me cope in addition to helping me be present for those that want love, support, and change. Ultimately, I think we are only responsible for ourselves, our children, and reshaping our destiny. We can save ourselves by getting out of the situation, finding support, and focusing on the self to grow and to experience joy. This helps show others the way. Getting the help and support of professionals is the addict's responsibility. Recognizing they have a problem means they are likely to do something about it. In my family, domestic violence and substance abuse is woven into the fabric of our lives from generation to generation. Grief is at the root of it and is the constant. Abusers continue to be enabled because living in darkness and not taking responsibility is what’s easy and comfortable. We don’t talk. We self sacrifice. That’s our culture. So, we stay stuck in a cycle of abuse, negative behavioral patterns, and physical and mental health issues because those thoughts and emotions eventually do surface. Usually, the kids live as prisoners ruled by fear, unpredictability, and hopelessness. Of childhood, my cousins and I recall anger, debilitating fear, and indescribable loneliness. We grew to be awkward and complicated. As a young adult, I made a conscious effort to break free of that culture and survive without the safety net of family support. After 20 years, I hit a wall with my own personal growth. I had regret for times I had been unaccountable to family, and wondered if things could be different without an all or nothing mentality. Since then, I’ve taken the initiative to reconnect with everyone, and although we’ve reconciled, our family is still broken because that vicious cycle persists in much of the younger generation. I wonder what my role is in all this, and I think it’s a few things. Some of us are working to change the culture to one in which we can talk openly and honestly. We are transparent which invites others to do the same. This has been most therapeutic. I also try to approach matters from a place of understanding and take actions that I hope will influence positive outcomes. I’ve let go of my judgements, ideas of what could have been, and have reconciled so that we can live and die more peacefully. This journey has been a crazy ride and a lot to process. I sometimes wonder if the hassles are worth it. Love is like that, I guess. We are bonding, but disappointments happen often, and it’s hard not to be attached to outcomes. I remind myself that I only have control over my perception and response. I’ve replaced walls with boundaries. I also acknowledge my emotions and de-stress through journaling, music, and various meditative forms. I’m taking time for me and to do whatever I want without feeling guilty no matter how hard others try to make me feel so. These things help me cope in addition to helping me be present for those that want love, support, and change. Ultimately, I think we are only responsible for ourselves, our children, and reshaping our destiny. We can save ourselves by getting out of the situation, finding support, and focusing on the self to grow and to experience joy. This helps show others the way. Getting the help and support of professionals is the addict’s responsibility. Recognizing they have a problem means they are likely to do something about it.

]]> http://edynathan.com/psychology/the-psychology-of-addiction-in-the-celebrity-world/comment-page-1#comment-630 rebecca Sat, 18 Feb 2012 19:05:56 +0000 http://edynathan.com/psychology/?p=588#comment-630 I am struggling with addiction everyday & somedays I'm surprised that I'm still alive. I am struggling with addiction everyday & somedays I’m surprised that I’m still alive.

]]> http://edynathan.com/psychology/in-the-news-warren-jeffs/comment-page-1#comment-601 linda masanimptewa Sat, 21 Jan 2012 21:57:34 +0000 http://edynathan.com/psychology/?p=557#comment-601 Well, being a victim of child abuse myself I guess I have been controlled by others. Not under the guise of religious doctrine but individual control. I was lucky I guess and my abuse was a one time event but with 3 different people. And all three were more of molestation then rape. When it was happening it felt like I couldn't say anything or do anything about it since they were family friend and one was a family member. I think knowing these peoe had a connection with our family it made it hard for me to tell anyone. Well, being a victim of child abuse myself I guess I have been controlled by others. Not under the guise of religious doctrine but individual control. I was lucky I guess and my abuse was a one time event but with 3 different people. And all three were more of molestation then rape. When it was happening it felt like I couldn’t say anything or do anything about it since they were family friend and one was a family member. I think knowing these peoe had a connection with our family it made it hard for me to tell anyone.

]]> http://edynathan.com/psychology/sandusky/comment-page-1#comment-600 Edy Nathan Sat, 21 Jan 2012 14:26:08 +0000 http://edynathan.com/psychology/?p=543#comment-600 Hi Linda- Thanks for your insights! Really important to continue our discussions about children and their perpetrators! Edy Hi Linda- Thanks for your insights! Really important to continue our discussions about children and their perpetrators! Edy

]]> http://edynathan.com/psychology/sandusky/comment-page-1#comment-599 Edy Nathan Sat, 21 Jan 2012 14:24:49 +0000 http://edynathan.com/psychology/?p=543#comment-599 Hi Jody! Thanks for your well thought out comment! Really important to continue to spread the word of experience and learning. Hope you are well. Hi Jody! Thanks for your well thought out comment! Really important to continue to spread the word of experience and learning. Hope you are well.

]]> http://edynathan.com/psychology/sandusky/comment-page-1#comment-587 linda masanimptewa Thu, 19 Jan 2012 03:25:24 +0000 http://edynathan.com/psychology/?p=543#comment-587 Hello, in this case I believe there were several factors that let these children down. Of course, Jerry Sandusky was the main perpetrator but all the people that knew of or even witnessed some of this abuse let those kids down. From not alerting the police and keep on it. To me the whole college football system at Penn state has some part in this. Hello, in this case I believe there were several factors that let these children down. Of course, Jerry Sandusky was the main perpetrator but all the people that knew of or even witnessed some of this abuse let those kids down. From not alerting the police and keep on it. To me the whole college football system at Penn state has some part in this.

]]> http://edynathan.com/psychology/sandusky/comment-page-1#comment-484 Jody Wed, 16 Nov 2011 23:43:28 +0000 http://edynathan.com/psychology/?p=543#comment-484 These guys are con artists and immediate family members are often the biggest enablers. Abusers (in whichever form) are often likable and respected in the community because they wear the masks needed to hide their actions and manipulate others into supporting them when the questions do come. They convince themselves and others (often times, even the authorities) that they are not guilty of such behavior. So, often the cycle continues. If you are feeling stuck, keep pursuing legal action on whatever basis you can (warrants, etc). If you have been effected by the abuse, don't make choices at all costs. It will only compound issues, putting yourself, your family and innocent bystanders on an additional path of dissension and life long strife. Just as you don't have to forget, you don't have to forgive unless forgiving the circumstances helps you live more peacefully. It's amazing how many family members are aware but do nothing to intervene. That can be the cause for a lot of anger! Do what you need to do to stay healthy. If the abuser or the enablers (who are equal in status in my opinion) are family members, you can sever all ties without excuse. You'll find support elsewhere. If you are ever comfortable enough to do it, it can be empowering to confront all those involved directly and repeatedly until you get some honest dialogue regarding truth and accountability. You may uncover more abuse or learn about shared experiences, but hopefully abusive behavior ends here and begins the healing as you work through the issues and mess together. These guys are con artists and immediate family members are often the biggest enablers. Abusers (in whichever form) are often likable and respected in the community because they wear the masks needed to hide their actions and manipulate others into supporting them when the questions do come. They convince themselves and others (often times, even the authorities) that they are not guilty of such behavior. So, often the cycle continues. If you are feeling stuck, keep pursuing legal action on whatever basis you can (warrants, etc). If you have been effected by the abuse, don’t make choices at all costs. It will only compound issues, putting yourself, your family and innocent bystanders on an additional path of dissension and life long strife. Just as you don’t have to forget, you don’t have to forgive unless forgiving the circumstances helps you live more peacefully. It’s amazing how many family members are aware but do nothing to intervene. That can be the cause for a lot of anger! Do what you need to do to stay healthy. If the abuser or the enablers (who are equal in status in my opinion) are family members, you can sever all ties without excuse. You’ll find support elsewhere. If you are ever comfortable enough to do it, it can be empowering to confront all those involved directly and repeatedly until you get some honest dialogue regarding truth and accountability. You may uncover more abuse or learn about shared experiences, but hopefully abusive behavior ends here and begins the healing as you work through the issues and mess together.

]]> http://edynathan.com/psychology/532/comment-page-1#comment-460 Linda Masanimptewa Fri, 28 Oct 2011 00:04:46 +0000 http://edynathan.com/psychology/?p=532#comment-460 Yes I believe the people of Libya will eventually have freedoms not seen there in many years. As long as there is not another dictator to take the place of this one. Many comedy shows have joked about this leader before but what dictators do is not funny. They are very oppressive and sometimes brutally so. Yes I believe the people of Libya will eventually have freedoms not seen there in many years. As long as there is not another dictator to take the place of this one. Many comedy shows have joked about this leader before but what dictators do is not funny. They are very oppressive and sometimes brutally so.

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