Grief is not a problem to solve. It is a reality to live.
Grief is not just about death.
It is the loss of what was, what could have been, what never was. It is the echo of a traumatic imprint, the absence of safety, the fracture of trust, the transformation of identity. It shows up in heartbreak, in lost dreams, in the body’s memory of what it has endured.
For those who have experienced sexual grief, the loss runs deeper than words can hold. It is the feeling of being a hostage to an event you did not choose.
The weight of self-loathing that was never yours to carry. The disconnection from your body, from pleasure, from a sense of safety within yourself. The world may not see the prison you live in—but I do. And I know:
Grief does not imprison you.
It may feel like a cave—dark, isolating, endless. But you are not meant to be trapped inside. You are meant to explore, to understand, to move through. Not to erase what has been lost, but to find a way to carry it differently.
If sexual grief has taken your voice, your confidence, your ability to trust or experience intimacy, know this: you are not broken. What happened to you does not define you. Liberation is not about erasing the past—it is about reclaiming yourself from it.
Grief transforms you.
You are not the same person you were before. And that is not a betrayal of the past. It is the unfolding of who you are becoming. The pain you carry can be alchemized into wisdom, resilience, even joy.
You do not have to do this alone.
I guide people through the 11 Phases of Grief and, for those living with sexual grief, The Liberation Protocol, a process that helps you break free from the hostage-taker of your past. Not because liberation is about perfection, but because it is about freedom—freedom to feel, to connect, to live without the weight of what has held you down.
This is not about letting go.
This is about learning to live fully —with all that you have lost, and all that you still are.
